Millie's story: Coming out and being fully me

Millie, 20, shares the story of how she came out, and offers advice to anyone who might be going through a similar experience. 

Date: 21st July 2025 | Author: Millie

Realising the truth

I was 14 when I first realised I was a lesbian. Something inside me just clicked. It was a process mixed with fear and curiosity, like finding a piece of myself I didn’t even know was missing. I didn’t come out until I was 18 and at university. That gap, between knowing and saying, felt huge. It was full of fear, hiding myself away and wondering if things would ever get easier. But when I said the words ‘I’m gay’ out loud to my family, the world didn’t fall apart. In fact, it got a little brighter.

Every time someone says who they are, whether it’s whispered in a bedroom or shouted at a Pride parade, the world becomes a better place.

From frightening to freeing

Discovering your sexuality can be one of the most exciting and personal times in your life. You’re getting to know yourself on an entirely new level.

However, it can also feel overwhelming and, at times, scary. You might be filled with anxiety about what your friends will think or how your family might react. You might be worried about how this discovery will change your future.

But I promise you, being proud and accepting of who you are is only ever good.

It may feel terrifying at first, but it’s one of the most freeing things you can do. You don’t need to change or hide away from who you are because your ability to love, in all its forms, is never a bad thing. Sexuality is not something to be ashamed of, but something to celebrate.

You are enough

Last year was the first year I felt I could celebrate Pride Month openly – I went with my mum and best friend to a Pride parade and it was wonderful! I had spent so much of my life worrying about telling the people close to me that I’m gay, but the reality was that it only made my relationship with my family fuller and more real. The event was a celebration of love, visibility and resilience. Pride Month is a reminder that every person deserves to feel safe being exactly who they are – not just during June, but every day.

Coming out isn’t easy for everyone. It can take time. And for some people, it may not feel like an option just yet.

If that is the case, know that your identity is still valid. You do not need to be ‘out’ to be real. You are already enough.

When you’re ready, sharing who you are can be one of the most powerful and liberating things you will ever do. It opens doors to a community and sense of joy that you didn’t even know was possible.

So if you’re reading this and still figuring things out, then know that you are not alone. And that there is nothing braver or more beautiful than being exactly who you are.